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Dore impamvu abakobwa beza bamara igihe kirekire nta bakunzi bafite

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Umukobwa mwiza kenshi aba amara igihe kirekire arikumwe n’abasore beza kandi yumva yishimiye. Ariko kuba uri umukobwa mwiza ukaba umara igihe uri kumwe n’abasore wumva bakunogeye, sibyo bituma uhita ubona uwo mukundana ibihe byose, igikunze kubaho nuko abakobwa beza benshi barongorwa bakuze bimeze nkaho bacikanwa n’igihe. Gusa wakumva bitangaje, ariko hari impamvu nyinshi zituma abakobwa beza cyane bamara igihe kirekire ari bonyine, nta mukunzi bari kumwe.

Nk’ibyamamare twaguteguriye zimwe mu impamvu 10 zituma abakobwa beza usanga batinda kubona abasore bashingana urugo.

  1. Abasore kenshi babona mudakwiranye

Iyo uri umukobwa mwiza cyane, n’abandi bose baba babizi, ndetse bamwe no kukurusha. Ariko aho gukora ibishoboka ngo barebe ko mwakundana, abasore benshi ntanuzagerageza gushyiramo imbaraga kugira akubwire iby’urukundo. Si ukuvugako bataziko uri mwiza, ahubwo nuko bafatako uri mwiza birenze kuburyo bumva utabemerera kuba umukunzi. Bagahitamo kubireka, ntihagire uwo muvugana k’urukundo.

  1. Uragoranye cyane – muburyo bwiza

Mukuri, abakobwa beza cyane ni uruhurirane rw’ibintu byinshi cyane, nuko bikaba byatuma abasore bumva batabasha guhangana nabyo. Ni nko gufata amabara yose ukayavangitiranya, iyo uyavanze, birangira ahindutse umweru, bikaba ariyo mpamvu, n’abasore benshi bumva batahangana n’ubwi bwiza.

  1. Ntiwiyoroshya

Birashoboka ko utahite ubona umusore mukundana, mugihe waba utagabanije ibyo wumva ukeneye kuzageraho mu busima bwawe, ariko ukomeza kwifata, ugashaka kuzabona umukunzi ufite ibyo utekereza nk’umukobwa mwiza. Nibyo koko uri umukobwa mwiza, ukwiye guhura n’umukunzi uzakugeza kunzozi zawe, kandi uri mwiza bihagije bituma kuba wagabanya ibyo wumva ushaka kuzageraho ejo hazaza, byatuma uzabaho nabi. Gusa, ibyo bivuzeko ugomba gutegereza umusore ukeneye igihe kirekire.

  1. Ikizere wigirira gitera benshi ubwoba

Urumva wuzuye kandi ukaba uzi neza ko uri mwiza by’agatangaza. Iyo ugenda munzira, ugenda mu buryo ushatse kuko uba uzi neza ko ntawakuveba kandi ko bose baziko uri mwiza cyane, ntakizatuma wumva ko uri inyuma y’abandi bakobwa. Gusa, ibyo birahagije gutuma abasore bagutinya, ntihagire ukuvugisha k’urukundo. Ni ukuvugako wowe ukeneye umusore ugomba guhangana n’umukobwa wifitiye icyo kizere cyo kurwego rwo hejuru. Bizatuma umutegereza igihe.

  1. Ntuterwa ikibazo no kuba wenyine

Umukobwa mwiza aba azi ukwihagararaho. Ukagenda ukicara ukagereka akaguru ku kandi utegereje umusore ufite ibyo ukeneye ko azaza akwizaniye, nibyiza ariko ugomba kuzamara icyo gihe umutegereje wiyitaho. Nubwo aba ari ukuba wenyine, ariko n’ubundi bituma umara igihe utari kureba uko wahitamo umusore ukunogeye. Ntakibazo ibyo biteye, kuko uri mwiza, uzabona umusore yizanye aje kugushaka, ariko bishobora gufata igihe kirekire kugira ubone umukunzi mukundana by’ukuri.

  1. Uzi icyo ukeneye

Mukuri abakobwa beza baba bazi ibyo bakora kugira babone umugabo uzabageza kubyiza bifuza, yaba mu Rukundo cyangwa mubuzima busanzwe. Ushobora gutekereza ngo iki kintu kizamfasha kubona umusore ukunda by’ukuri, ariko, ushobora gusanga uri kwisibira amayira. Ntugomba kugabanya ibyo wifuza kuzageraho mubuzima bwawe, ariko geregeza ufungure amaso gake.

  1. Ukurura abantu batari bo

Niba uri umukobwa mwiza, abantu benshi baba babizi ko uri mwiza cyane. Ikintu kidashimishije gato, nuko hari abantu bamwe bataba barangajwe imbere n’ubwo buranga bwawe. Mu gihe ushobora kubona abasore beza bagutereta, ni nako haza n’abo ubona mutari kurugero rumwe, bikaba imvange. Uba ushobora kumara igihe uri gushukwa n’abo mutari kurugero rumwe kandi badafite gahunda, ukabimenya hashize igihe kirekire.

  1. Ufite ukwihangana kurenze ugukenewe

Igihe ubonye uwo mukundana, uburyo mubabarirana amakosa mu Rukundo nibyo bigaragaza igihe muzamarana mukundanye. Ukwihangana kwawe, nibyo bituma uba inshuti nziza kandi n’umuntu mwiza ushimisha mu Rukundo, gusa bishobora kurangira umaze igihe kirekire uri mu byo utumva neza kandi bidafite intego. Birashoboka ko wakisanga ahantu umukunzi wawe akoze ikosa, ukamubabarira bwa mbere, ubwa kabiri, ubwa gatatu, yewe n’ubwa kane. Urabizi neza ko abantu bakora amakosa. Gusa ikibazo kiza, iyo uri kubabarira umusore utisubiraho, ibi bigatuma umara igihe kirekire ntamukunzi ufite kandi wari kuba warabonye umusore mwiza kandi wisubiraho mu gihe akosheje.

  1. Burigihe cyose uba uhuze

Ntabwo uri babakobwa birirwa bicaye mu rugo ngo bategereje abasore bazaza kubashaka. Uba uri mumirimo, wagiye gukina, gusura abantu mu miryango, gufasha abantu akazi. Gahunda zawe z’icyumweru ziba zipanze neza kandi ntagihe cyo gupfa ubusa kirimo, kuko hose hapangiye imirimo, ibi bigatuma utabona umwanya wo gusohoka ngo utembere, uhure n’abasore muganire. Impamvu uba utaboneka cyane, nuko igihe cyose uba ufite ibyo uri gukora, ibi bikaba bishobora kugukomerera kubona uburyo wakongera uuntu mubuzima bwawe, uzakenera guha umwanya muri za gahunda uba wapanze.

  1. Utekereza kubona nk’uko utanga

Uritonda mubuzima bwawe, ariko ntabwo buri muntu wese aba yumva yagukunda wese nkuko nawe umukunda. Mugihe uwo ukunda yumva ari urukundo rwo kwishimisha, wowe wabifashe nkaho mugomba gukundana nk’abazabana nk’umugore n’umugabo, nuko nawe ukumva ko ariko yagakwiye kugukunda. Uri mwiza koko kandi ntushaka guha urukundo umuntu utaruguha uko urukwiye. Gusa bishobora kuzagufata igihe kirekire kugira ubone umukunzi ugukunda bihaza 100% intekerezo zawe.

 

Richard Uwizera@ibyamamare.com

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